Finding Her Faith
After Candace welcomed her three children, she also decided to devote herself to her faith when she became a Christian. Her brother Kirk became a born-again Christian at the age of 17, and he would teach his sister about the faith during his studies. Candace followed a similar path to her brother and asked for his religious books and she decided to embrace the religion completely. From then on, Cameron’s faith became an integral part of her life.
The couple may have been young when they started their relationship, but they knew from the beginning that they would be together forever. They embarked on a whirlwind romance and, less than a year after they began dating, the pair decided to get married. Although this came as a surprise to many, on June 22, 1996, Cameron and Bure invited their closest friends and family, including Candace’s Full House co-stars, to an intimate ceremony where they watched them exchange their vows.
Years Of Love
The Full House actress and her NHL player husband have been married since 1996, always appearing as the perfect couple. Though they have never been plagued by rumors surrounding their marriage, people have still questioned their relationship.
Candace is no stranger to the entertainment industry and, even though she started acting at a young age, she was born into a famous family. Her mother was a big talent agent in Hollywood, and her brother Kirk was also a child star turned teen heartthrob. Kirk starred as Mike Seaver in the hit series, Growing Pains and the siblings were both known on the Hollywood scene. At just 11 years old, Candace was cast as DJ Tanner in the sitcom Full House.
Candace worked on Full House for most of her childhood and spent most of this time on set with her co-stars. However, she did have other acting opportunities elsewhere during this time which allowed her to try out different roles. She starred in the TV movie No One Would Tell, which was more of a dramatic role than her character DJ Tanner. She also followed in the footsteps of her brother and starred in two episodes of Growing Pains.
While Full House may have been Cameron’s breakthrough role on TV, it also gave her the opportunity to meet her future husband. Cameron went to support her co-star Dave Coulier playing in a charity hockey tournament, in which, Russian hockey player Valeri Bure was also in attendance. Candace was 19-years-old at the time and recalls the moment she saw 21-year-old Bure. “We were looking at these two cute men on the ice, and I was like ‘I wanna meet that one, the blonde one.”
Dave Coulier became aware of Candace’s comments and took it upon himself to play cupid. It was Cameron’s co-star who made the first introduction between the actress and Valeri, and they planned to go on their first date the following day. That first date seemed to be a success and was followed by a second, a third, and years of marriage. From the moment they met at the Montreal Canadiens game, the talented couple became inseparable, and the public soon became aware of their relationship.
Stronger Than Ever
Many may have thought the couple were too young to get married and were mistaking lust for love. However, Candace and Valeri were certain with their decision to get married, knowing full well they were meant for one another. Since the moment they became a married couple, they always appeared madly in love, and put any criticism towards their marriage to the back of their minds. They did not forget Dave Coulier in all this, and Bure sent him a hockey stick with the engraved message: “Thanks for Candace.”
Welcoming The Babies
Two years after they were married, the couple welcomed their first child in 1998, a daughter named Natasha. In 2000, their son Lev was born, and in 2002 they welcomed another son named Maksim. The family had grown from two to five in a matter of years, and they now felt complete. Even with three children to look after, Candace has expressed the importance of keeping the romance alive between her and her husband. She says they do this by making time for one another and spending time together away from the kids.
However, in 2008, Candace found herself at the center of public controversy when it was revealed that she had recommended a baby book to former co-star Jodie Sweetin, titled On Becoming Baby Wise. The book recommends getting your baby onto a feeding schedule from birth, something that was in direct opposition to the advice of the American Association of Pediatrics to follow your baby’s hunger and feed them on demand. People began questioning Cameron’s parenting decisions and if she was looking after her baby properly.
Candace’s words caused quite the stir, and rather than empowering women and supporting equality, it seemed that she was stating how a woman can be secondary to their husband. She defended herself by saying, “The definition I’m using with the word ‘submissive’ is the Biblical definition of that, so, it is meekness, it is not weakness. It is strength under control, it is bridled strength.” She did go on to say that it is “very difficult to have two heads of authority.”
No Support On Set
Cameron admitted that while she was on Full House, Valeri only ever came to visit once or twice because watching her with other men made him uncomfortable. Even though it was only for the cameras, she said, “He’s always held a position that, ‘I don’t want to ever tell you not to or stop you from your job,’ and all that, but he doesn’t want to watch and I respect that. And it’s the boundaries.”
To highlight what Cameron is expressing, this is the Bible’s version of being “submissive”. It states, “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives.” While this may not be considered the most modern way of living and will face much backlash, Candace Cameron is certain to follow the words of her faith and takes the words literally.
The Truth Comes Out
After her controversial comments caused Candace to defend her marriage over the years, she did not help herself when she took to Instagram to mark her 20th anniversary with a loving tribute to her husband. She wrote, “Let’s be real for a second. We are celebrating 20 years of marriage today. 22 years together as a couple, I couldn’t be more proud to be here and love my man the way I do. But let me assure you it hasn’t been all roses the whole journey.”
Cameron Hits Back
As a firm believer in faith, Cameron couldn’t help but hit back when The View co-host Joy Behar said that it is a “mental illness” to believe that “Jesus talks to you.” Cameron explained what her take on the comments were, saying “My initial reaction was that it was a tone-deaf comment, but not a surprising one from someone who isn’t a believer.” She added that “someone who has no concept of the Holy Spirit, I think that is a logical response to them.”
Candace’s comments proved to be quite controversial, but she went on further. She stated, “My husband is a natural-born leader. I quickly learned that I had to find a way of honoring his take-charge personality and not get frustrated about his desire to have the final decision on just about everything. I am not a passive person, but I chose to fall into a more submissive role in our relationship because I wanted to do everything in my power to make my marriage and family work.”
Growing Older Together
Since Candace and Valeri’s children are growing into their older years and even heading into their own careers with their eldest daughter aspiring to be a singer and model, it means the married couple has more time for one another. Having spent much of their marriage dedicating their time to their children, this new found free time would allow for the pair to spend time with one another which they have expressed is essential for their marriage to work.
In her book Balancing It All: My Story of Juggling Priorities and Purpose, Candace spoke about her attitude towards marriage has changed and how she has learned the true meaning of it all. She explained that her love for husband and her understanding of marriage came from her religious beliefs, and she followed her religion to ensure her marriage was how it should be. She expressed that the key to a healthy marriage is to be “submissive” to the needs of her husband and children.
Regardless of Candace’s attempts to defend her words, the public was still not impressed with the TV star. She used another interview as her chance to clarify the use of the word “submissive” where she said that people “don’t understand the Biblical definition of the word.” She continued, “I think they’re thinking of it in terms of a perverted Fifty Shades of Grey kind of definition, or an oppression, or even a dictatorship. And that is not what I’m talking about.”
Number One Mom
When Candace’s son Lev turned 18, she revealed that he left her a heartwarming and kind note which read “Mom! I first just need to say thank you. You have literally put your life down for me. You helped, encouraged, cared for, loved, worked, and really done everything for me. I would be nowhere near close to where I am today if it wasn’t for you.” Cameron’s devotion to her family was clear and her values had rubbed off well on her children.
Defending Her Comments
Even though her words were causing a stir, Candace went on to say that her and Valeri “Have a very wonderful marriage and that’s why I have felt comfortable sharing about it in my book. I had no idea this was going to stir this much controversy. We have a marriage in which we want to honor God, and so I just was explaining that. But this little word in there is causing everybody to just get into a tizzy about it.” This, still, did not help matters.
People continued to weigh in on the discussion when Candace posted a photo on her Instagram of her flexing her muscles and the caption, “Nothing weak about this – people talk about what they don’t understand.” People’s comments on the photo came flooding in, and one person wrote, “Being submissive isn’t weak at all… it’s Biblical! Good for you.” Another said, “I agree there is nothing weak or wrong about your life or marriage. But when you publicize it and sell it, I believe there is.”
Candace continued to defend herself, but it seems that her words would always be taken in a different way to how she had hoped. She said, “I’m a very strong woman and an opinionated woman, but I don’t think a marriage is at its best when you have two people vying for the same position.” Once again, people turned against the TV star and thought she was weak and under the control of Valeri when she continued to say, “and ultimately I will defer to my husband”.
With Candace’s traditional views when it comes to love and relationships, she admitted she is no longer comfortable in kissing scenes with her co-stars. She said “I’ll be honest, I’m, like, I’m kind of over it in the sense that I don’t like that I keep kissing two different men! I’d like to stick with one guy.” She also added that her age is a factor, explaining “I’m getting more uncomfortable with it the older I’m getting. I’m like, ‘I don’t want to keep doing this!'”
Candace decided to take a break from acting to focus on her family, but from the mid-2000s, she took on several different acting roles. She made a guest appearance on Disney Channel’s That’s So Raven, as well as, appeared in several Hallmark movies. However, whenever she went back to work she never sacrificed her time with her husband or children. Unlike many couples in Hollywood, her relationship did not succumb to the constant pressures, and Candace and Valeri managed to balance their lives perfectly.
Ups And Downs
She continued the caption by expressing, “There have been several tough years, in a row, ups and downs, bad attitudes and bad decisions, but we’ve persevered. We rode them out, we loved each other through them, we kept the focus: God’s glory.” Then to finish it off, “We are both better for it. I’m so grateful and thankful for the man I married. Neither of us are perfect, far from it, and will continue to make mistakes because we are human.”
Just like her previous comments made public caused a stir, her Instagram post confused many of her followers who assumed that after 20 years together, the couple realized they were not meant to be together. Candace was once again made to defend her comments and explained that her relationship was just fine but was stating that everyone goes down a difficult road, and they are no different. Speaking of their time together, she expressed, “It’s worth it to make it a priority, otherwise, you see how it affects a marriage.”
The Importance of Intimacy
Not one to refrain from stating her beliefs, Candace also gave an insight into the importance of intimacy with her husband. She explained that “Friendship is the foundation of marriage, but you also need private time…You need that intimacy — not just romantic but also through conversation.” While her previous comments may not have resonated well with many women, she also does share the beliefs of many others, and this was a more realistic tip to maintain a successful marriage.
While many controversial comments made in the entertainment industry are eventually forgotten or overshadowed by something new, this did not seem to be the case for Candace’s words. After causing an outcry in 2014 for her comments, the debate continued for over a year, and in January 2015, she was still defending herself. She stated that she stands by all her comments and expressed, “I put [my husband] on a pedestal so he can grow. And he does the same for me.” For Candace, this was the ideology adopted by her faith.
A Different View
The comments were brought to light once again in 2016 when Candace joined the panel of independent and opinionated women on the daytime talk show, The View. It was no surprise that among the controversial topics that were to be brought up on the show, Candace’s past comments would be highlighted. The panel discussed “Does a relationship need a leader?” and Candace continued to defend her belief about being submissive in a marriage. However, the rest of the panel were unsupportive towards the star and were critical of her marital beliefs.
Another debate which came up on The View was about the boycott of the Oscars due to the lack of diversity in the nominations. It was during this discussion that fellow panelist Whoopi Goldberg appeared to take a swipe at Cameron by bringing up the fact she loves to speak about her religion and her submissive role in her marriage. Goldberg said, “Well, you know what, I talk about God — you gotta talk about these damn movies.” The show quickly went on a commercial break, and Candace immediately left.
Balancing It All
While speaking of her children, Candace revealed “My daughter is still at home. She’s still singing, doing her thing with… her YouTube channel. And my boys, I have one left in high school now. He’s a junior and my other son graduated, and he will be going off to play hockey this year, so I will have one less child this year at home.” However, she has no plans of slowing down. “You would think [I would]!” she said. “But I am working.”
Staying Closer To Home
After flying back and forth between California and New York from 2015 to 2016 to be a panelist on The View, Candace is much happier with her new role in being closer to home. “It’s been great,” she said. “I’ve been home the last few months because I’ve been doing Fuller House… and I still travel because most of the Hallmark movies I do are out of town; they are not in LA. But it’s definitely less stressful not commuting back and forth every week to The View.”
While Candace has faced her own negativity in the media, she looks at Fuller House as a way for people to escape from the negativity in the media. “There’s so much angst out there, and I think people… once they come home, they want to close their doors, and they just want to be freed from it… And especially if you have a family. That’s the type of show you can watch with the whole family. And I think that’s very much a reason why it’s been successful.”
Happily Ever After
Meanwhile, outside of work, Candace and her husband continue to prove their love for one another, and in 2017 Candace and Valeri celebrated their 21st wedding anniversary in Pebble Beach. They spent their time horseback riding and drinking champagne, and Candace wrote in a romantic post, “I couldn’t be more proud to be here and love my man the way I do.” Regardless of how people perceive their relationship, the TV actress and her hockey player husband have managed to keep a strong marriage and practice their faith while loving each other dearly.
Nothing Will Stop Them
It seems Candace will continue to share her love for her husband on social media, regardless of what anyone has to say on their marriage Just recently, she posted a photo with the caption, “Our second in-person date 1994, our wedding day 1996 and a few years later – Happy 22nd Anniversary my love. There really is something special about growing old together. I love you even more today than I did on our wedding day simply because I KNOW you, 24 years in the making.”
Keeping The Spark Alive
Even in 2018, the world is still wondering what the secret to Candace’s successful marriage is. Speaking to People in March, she explained that she and her husband take time for themselves. “I just came back from Switzerland two days ago with my husband. “We had a little five-day vacation, so that was wonderful. We do like to travel and get away from everything here at home in L.A., and from our kids, as much as we love them. We want alone time, you know what I mean?”
In The Name Of Jesus
Speaking to People magazine, Cameron emphasized the impact her faith has on her and her relationship, and the one thing her and her husband believe in to make their marriage work. “The reality is the glue for us is Jesus,” she said. “It’s the Bible. You know, when there are arguments or we’re compromising and in ways, it’s always like, ‘Well, let’s just go back to the Bible.’ It’s the foundation for us. So it’s not about winning or losing. But doing this journey together.”
Back To The Bible
Candace referred back to the Bible to defend her words about her husband. She said, “Men and women are different in how they want to feel love and respect. To go back to the Bible, men are told to love their wives and women are told to respect their husbands.” Although this may have been the words of the Bible, it caused a stir since it did not fit in with the modern day society and with many women in the public eye fighting for female empowerment.
Candace gave an interview to OK! Magazine in 2014 where she spoke about the success of her marriage after all their years together. Candace explained how she has constantly shut down any negativity made towards her marriage and how the couple has focused on their love for each other instead. She said, “We’ve gone from loving each other as teenagers to loving each other as adults with teenaged children.” However, even after giving her story and ignoring the negative comments, people still questioned their marriage.
Not Completely Perfect
It is hard to find a perfect relationship and one that does not have any problems, especially in Hollywood. While Cameron and her sportsman husband appear completely in love to the world, many wonder if they are hiding their true colors behind closed doors. The reasoning behind people’s speculations comes as a result of Cameron’s minor signs in past interviews where she has suggested all may not be as it seems. Therefore, it was questioned whether the Bures were trying to hide their issues from the public.